Double Standards

Yeah so I'm at a low point today. Go figure... They come around often. Yesterday I came across this FB status that I HAD to copy. HAD to. It was funny and I figured I'll never make a pregnancy announcement and have to read everyone elses so Why not? Make a little fun at myself and go on with life. Here was the status...

 "WE ARE EXPECTING! !!!! I know, I know really cant believe it, pretty crazy isn't it?? I really don't want to believe it myself. I wasn't going to put it on here, because it will be obvious soon enough, but thought I needed to make it official. So now you know, its official. We are EXPECTING another hot day today! Wait! What did you think I meant?? LOL! Hahahaha GOTCHA!!!!!!"

Yeah... so not recieved well... My sis thought it was hilarious (I knew I loved you for a reason) Two friends thought it was a great joke and were glad I could joke about it.... but Yeah I've been called cruel and mean and told that it was JUST Wrong! Why? Other people make fun of my infertility... per say. I get inappropriate comments all the time. When ya'll gonna have one? Well, at least you tried fertility treatments! Here have my kids... hahahaha. Keep mine it's good birth control you'll change your mind... hahaahaha. Relax and it'll happen... when God wants you to have one you will... When you get approved for the adoption....

But I can't have fun with it? I feel like If I have to read 500 different statuses about pregnancy and baby pictures and such not per a month... why shouldn't I get to have a little fun with a status of my own?

Which by the way...I had to read another one today by someone who has been married for less time than we've been trying. I think that FB is there to torture me... to remind me of what I can't have. The world is out there to torture and remind infertiles what we can't have. People don't understand what I feel or go through and most don't care to try... however I'm supposed to put on my happy face and congratulate you. There was a dear Abby post about someone thinking it not right that a couple was thinking of having a benefit to fund their adoption...called it a choice! I do not choose to be infertile!!!! It's not like it's an active decision. I understand if you live paycheck to pay check and don't or can't contribute... but don't judge me for wanting a family. No one thinks twice about sending you a baby shower invite and you having to spend your hard earned saving for adoption/infertlity money for their baby gift...but shame on you for asking for a little help to get what you want/need.

Ugh.. the double standards we live in.