Saturday, October 29, 2011
Friday, October 21, 2011
Moving Forward!!!!!!
So the first information meeting was today and it went really well. About 10 couples were there. Such a bigger group than normal that we had to meet at a local college versus the agency office. Got a lot of good information. A lot of questions were answered. Some fears were taken care of. Some fears were made. But overall it was really good. We found out we have a good say in what we want and how much openness and things of that nature that we are willing to have. It feels better to have a little bit of control (at least to a control freak like me).
So we are moving forward. Plan to get in our paperwork ASAP so that we can get started on our formal application online. (There are some things they have to recieve first.) The wait for a homestudy for domestic adoption is about 3 months... just to start! Then another 3 or so months for approval. That's because more people go with domestic adoptions so the social workers are more stretched out. And they go by when your application goes in... so we definitely want to do that as soon as we can. The earlier on the list the better for us!!!! Of course if we are willing to travel a little farther we may can move faster. This is due to being in the metro area and if we travel to a different branch they may not have as many families as in the metro area. So that's something to definitely consider. After 2 years of waiting... and 1-3 years of waiting AFTER approval I'm not really up for waiting any longer than I have to! Ready to get going. And people think it's hard to wait the 9 months of pregnancy.....
So here's our steps for those of you that are curious......
1) pre-application... DONE!!!!!
2) information meeting DONE!!!!
3) formal application
4) meeting with social worker as a couple
5) individual meeting with social worker
6) home visit
7) pre-paration of profile (will probably start duing homestudy process)
8) after approval the WAIT begins. 1-3 years is the average.
9) Begin setting up nursery and keep homestudy current along with fundraising and saving money during the wait. (Homestudy has to be updated yearly.)
So current prayer concerns...
1) that my busy and procrastinating self will get paperwork done quickly.
2) that my very impatient self won't go crazy during this extensive wait (on top of an already long wait).
3) that mine and hubby's relationship will get stronger through this
4) that we will be accepted and pass the homestudy
5) for the birthmother who will have to make a very difficult and painful decision
6) that we would find the child that God has for us to parent
7) that we are diligent in saving money and that God will provide for all of our needs
On a funny note... got introduced to what parenthood is like with 3 kids. Kept our preacher's kids last night. He's off at OTS with the Air Guard as a chaplain and his wife needed to get some things done. I unfortunately AGAIN got stuck with writing a lesson plan that I wasn't supposed to. Plus hubby got a migraine...awesome. So I let them play while I'm trying to get the lesson plan done... but before I could finish I had to start the oldest on homework... NOT fun. He didn't want to do it and yeah it was a fight to complete. Got supper ready for kids... finally got homework complete. Start baths (told her I'd give them so it wasn't a rush for her to be back she had other errands) and I walk into the den... I'm making a Christmas present...and the 4 year old has grabbed the paint and squirted it all over it. (I was up front getting the oldest done with homework and hubby had had to lay down. I almost sprouted horns. It was not pretty in my house for a minute. So I sat him on the couch while I cooled off. But he was really sweet and appologized profusely! I don't think he knew what to do with me that upset. I can fix it it was just the aggravation of it. Now I had to repaint the base and start over. That'll teach me to lay the paint out. On the upside at least it wasn't the furniture or the floor or something. My mom got a kick out of it. She's enjoying my payback.
And yeah... we are STILL moving forward after all of that!
So we are moving forward. Plan to get in our paperwork ASAP so that we can get started on our formal application online. (There are some things they have to recieve first.) The wait for a homestudy for domestic adoption is about 3 months... just to start! Then another 3 or so months for approval. That's because more people go with domestic adoptions so the social workers are more stretched out. And they go by when your application goes in... so we definitely want to do that as soon as we can. The earlier on the list the better for us!!!! Of course if we are willing to travel a little farther we may can move faster. This is due to being in the metro area and if we travel to a different branch they may not have as many families as in the metro area. So that's something to definitely consider. After 2 years of waiting... and 1-3 years of waiting AFTER approval I'm not really up for waiting any longer than I have to! Ready to get going. And people think it's hard to wait the 9 months of pregnancy.....
So here's our steps for those of you that are curious......
1) pre-application... DONE!!!!!
2) information meeting DONE!!!!
3) formal application
4) meeting with social worker as a couple
5) individual meeting with social worker
6) home visit
7) pre-paration of profile (will probably start duing homestudy process)
8) after approval the WAIT begins. 1-3 years is the average.
9) Begin setting up nursery and keep homestudy current along with fundraising and saving money during the wait. (Homestudy has to be updated yearly.)
So current prayer concerns...
1) that my busy and procrastinating self will get paperwork done quickly.
2) that my very impatient self won't go crazy during this extensive wait (on top of an already long wait).
3) that mine and hubby's relationship will get stronger through this
4) that we will be accepted and pass the homestudy
5) for the birthmother who will have to make a very difficult and painful decision
6) that we would find the child that God has for us to parent
7) that we are diligent in saving money and that God will provide for all of our needs
On a funny note... got introduced to what parenthood is like with 3 kids. Kept our preacher's kids last night. He's off at OTS with the Air Guard as a chaplain and his wife needed to get some things done. I unfortunately AGAIN got stuck with writing a lesson plan that I wasn't supposed to. Plus hubby got a migraine...awesome. So I let them play while I'm trying to get the lesson plan done... but before I could finish I had to start the oldest on homework... NOT fun. He didn't want to do it and yeah it was a fight to complete. Got supper ready for kids... finally got homework complete. Start baths (told her I'd give them so it wasn't a rush for her to be back she had other errands) and I walk into the den... I'm making a Christmas present...and the 4 year old has grabbed the paint and squirted it all over it. (I was up front getting the oldest done with homework and hubby had had to lay down. I almost sprouted horns. It was not pretty in my house for a minute. So I sat him on the couch while I cooled off. But he was really sweet and appologized profusely! I don't think he knew what to do with me that upset. I can fix it it was just the aggravation of it. Now I had to repaint the base and start over. That'll teach me to lay the paint out. On the upside at least it wasn't the furniture or the floor or something. My mom got a kick out of it. She's enjoying my payback.
And yeah... we are STILL moving forward after all of that!
Monday, October 10, 2011
love this
http://youtu.be/V4nFFGCbR18so
Yeah I so feel that way.
Adoption meeting is in less than two weeks. I'm nervous as heck... especially when all around me are birth and pregnancy anouncements and ultra sound pics. Picked out a crib and changing table. Didn't buy it... just picked one out. And got told by my f-i-l that I was putting the cart before the horse. You know... we don't all have oops... or have it easy. Gives me something to do to bide my time while I wait that makes it feel useful. Loving these birds and bees videos. I'll be posting more later. When you are there, it's nice to have a reason to laugh and to lighten the mood. Especially when you can truly say somedays "I hate her uterus!"
Yeah I so feel that way.
Adoption meeting is in less than two weeks. I'm nervous as heck... especially when all around me are birth and pregnancy anouncements and ultra sound pics. Picked out a crib and changing table. Didn't buy it... just picked one out. And got told by my f-i-l that I was putting the cart before the horse. You know... we don't all have oops... or have it easy. Gives me something to do to bide my time while I wait that makes it feel useful. Loving these birds and bees videos. I'll be posting more later. When you are there, it's nice to have a reason to laugh and to lighten the mood. Especially when you can truly say somedays "I hate her uterus!"
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